Straight up Step Work ~ Amends

When we complete our 4th-5th step, it is the gateway to our AMENDS/Forgiveness step. I feel like this is somehow harder that the 4th step, as it requires me to lay down any claim I have to obtain some kind of apology, repayment or karmic balancing of the scales and release you from the debt… Continue reading Straight up Step Work ~ Amends

Digging deeper on the 4th

My life can tend to get a little hectic. Not because I am that busy, but because I am not the best at planning. I will end up with several hours of "open space” and try to pull in folks to do something, but everyone else seems to be more organized and planned-out that I… Continue reading Digging deeper on the 4th

The Social Contract of Recovery

I had a number of different topics rolling around in my head to write about. Our journey in recovery is like a new chapter is revealed every single day; it’s never the same old, same old, for certain! But something is standing out today, and that is our communal responsibility to others. When we take… Continue reading The Social Contract of Recovery

No Skipping Steps 6 and 7.

So, back to the steps. We have dug into steps 1,2 and 3. I have spoken often of step 4, the inventory step or “stuff’s just got real” step. Step 5 is the completion of step 4, which is the reading of the step 4. So, that brings us to Steps 6 and 7. These… Continue reading No Skipping Steps 6 and 7.

Choosing Wisdom over Chaos

A while back, I sat through a talk that in part intrigued me, called me out and insulted me. The speaker basically said that those of us in recovery and that have been in crazy relationships have broken pickers. Simply put, something is broken about how we find those we choose to spend our time… Continue reading Choosing Wisdom over Chaos

Step 3, or How we use our Tools against the Ego Zombie

Drum roll please…ta-da! And, here we are, at step 3. In the big book, step 3 states “Made a conscious decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.” I have enormous respect for Bill W. and the founders of modern recovery. But here is where… Continue reading Step 3, or How we use our Tools against the Ego Zombie